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Friends 🥰



Hanging out with friends is so important when you dive into the dating world.

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When I was married I literally had zero friends. You can’t count my sister in law. She’s def my best friend, but you can’t count her. She was the only one there though. I isolated my self to the extreme and surrounded my life around my ex. Totally unhealthy. 

After my divorce I learned how to develop friendships and cultivate them. KG was my first true friend and she taught me how to be a friend. 

Now that I am dating I don’t want to lose what I have worked so hard to build. I have a network of super supportive ladies. I have my work friends who cheer me on, I have my best friends who cheer me on, and I have my ladies who cheer me on. Because Mindy Kaling says 

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Tonight I hung out with BS and it was a blast. Like we always laugh when we are together no matter what we are doing. We looked up nursery rhymes like miss Mary Mack. She’s my ball of fun and relaxation. 

I worked so hard to build my friendships I have, and I live with one of my best friends. I am not going to give that up because I’m wearing rose colored glasses right now in the dating world. 

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It’s so important to recognize that your ladies are forever and I want to make sure I continue to value and nourish my friendships and water them daily. I am NOT an absent friend. 

Shout out to KG, BS, AL, MH, KW, BW, DP, OJ

You ladies are my rock and I lean hard on you. Thank you. You are my top tier and I can count on you. And I am thankful for that. 

Guys come and go, girlfriends are forever. I promise to always take the time to make time for my girlfriends because they are my true forever. Who knows who will be standing at the altar but these ladies most likely will be standing next to me. 

My girlfriends are such a blast to hang out with. We cook dinner, drink wine and chat the night away. Last 2 times I saw AL I lost at candy land 5 times with her son and we watched the Taylor Swift documentary. You can’t do this with boys. 

KG and I watch Floridabama shore and have the most random conversations about nothing and everything at the same time. She is my unpaid therapist who kicks my ass on a daily in the best way possible. 

KW shares my heart. 

I won’t keep going but all my ladies mean the world to me and they are irreplaceable, it would devastate me to lose them. 

Dating is fun, but you definitely need to carve out time for your friends

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